Becky Bites

“Becky bites”, the three-year-old said, holding out his arm as evidence. Sure enough, there were the teeth marks, substantiation that he had indeed been bitten.

“Did you tell the teacher?” I asked, hoping he, in response, had remembered to use his words, an important if not easy, milestone for every child. (more…)

Punishment vs. Discipline

We have recently been looking over some pamphlets that were published by the National Association for the Education of Young Children, the major professional organization that supports quality programs for children under eight years of age and provides information and resources for the educators who work with these children.  I found the following definitions, which delineate some of the differences between discipline or guidance and punishment, informative as well as thought provoking. (more…)

My Toddler Is A Picky Eater


Eating is as much an emotional and relationship issue as it is a physical issue.  We work with parents and children on nutrition from the psychological vantage point. Later on in this series we’ll hear from some nutritionists, but for now, let’s talk about our children and what’s happening. (more…)

My School-Age Child’s A Picky Eater

The older the child, the more resistance s/he is able to muster because the unwise food has been around for a longer period of time. From the child’s point of view, the fact that you allowed “white bread and ice cream” in the past means you considered them acceptable choices. Therefore, as the child reasons, these foods must still be acceptable and besides, “I like them!” (more…)

Purpose of Time Out

I love time out. In fact I have been known to place myself in time out upon occasion.  Children and adults alike certainly have times when they feel overwhelmed and frustrated, and those feelings do not generally foster our clearest thinking or best behaviors.  We all need time to let those negative emotions dissipate before we can begin to solve problems or resolve issues. (more…)


You’ve been doing all the right things, and you still have a picky eater. What else can you try?

* Plant vegetables together. Some children will try something they’ve grown, although this is not quick enough for others. One mom I know, whose children were frustrated with the slowness, bought carrots with their green tops still attached and planted them while her children were in school. The children were excited to dig up a carrot or two for dinner, and actually tasted them. (more…)

Eating Vegetables?

What is there about vegetables that makes them the most rejected category of food? Is it because they’re not sweet, or because of how they look? Whatever the reason, they are the least favorite for many children. Since doctors, nutritionists and parents understand that vegetables are an important source of needed nutrients, the question is: What Can We Do? First, let’s review the general rules for helping children eat healthy. These rules  apply to all types of food. (more…)

Fruit Is Real Food

Although fruit is one of the major nutrition categories and a food group where children are less picky, there are some guidelines where we need to be aware. What do the experts suggest about offering children servings of fruit? Here’s a summery.

                                   FRUIT AND JUICE GUIDELINES

  • Before 6 months, most recommend no fruit or juice
  • From 6-12 months, up to 4 oz. juice, but only in a cup–no bottle. The logic here is that juice in a bottle increases the likelihood of tooth decay.
  • 1-6 years: up to 6 oz of juice or one to one and a half cups of fruit.
  • 7 and older: up to 12 oz of juice or one and a half cups of fruit (more…)

Divorce: When A Marriage Falls Apart

We marry with such high expectations. But no matter how sophisticated we become, there still lives inside each young bride or groom the vision of “happily ever after.” A child or children join over time, and we become a family. But in some families, happy seems to disappear, replaced by conflict. And sometimes, even with our best efforts, divorce becomes the only option. (more…)


Most of the advice offered by experts suggests that both parents sit down with the children, and say something like, “Sometimes moms and dads have trouble getting along and it’s not good for them to live together anymore. That’s what has happened to us and so ___ (dad) or (mom) or (we) are ….” Approaching the children together is a good idea because (more…)