First Born In The Birth Order

If you’re a parent, you have a first born. If you have other children, that first born becomes the oldest child. If you have no other children, the first born remains an only child. This is the beginning of birth order and its influence on a child’s development. What might we see in the child occupying that position?

  • serious
  • cautious in new situations
  • tendency toward perfectionism
  • a bit more rigid, believing their way is the “right” way.
  • bossy, especially with younger siblings
  • high achieving, but easily discouraged. a worrier.

Each of those characteristics can be positive or each can be negative. We, as parents, need to understand what makes the difference between positive and negative so we can use birth order theory to help our child. (more…)