Finding Quality Child Care–Chapter 1

How to Find a Quality Child Care Program   


It’s time to find child care. You’re going back to work, or starting for the first time. But what about your children?

  • You have read that the experiences children have in the early years are very significant and impact their intellectual and emotional development and future in many ways.
  • You have heard from your friends that what takes place in some child care centers is at best custodial–children are safe–and in some programs can actually be detrimental.

What do you need to know and do to find the program that will nurture your child intellectually and emotionally, that will foster your child’s creativity and independence, honor her individuality and enhance his self esteem?

We will take you step by step through the process of what to look for, where to to find it, what questions to ask and how to evaluate what you see and hear.


Quality Child Care, Chapter 2

Chapter 2–Licensing and Regulations

You need to be aware that there are specific licensing requirements that regulate programs in your location.  They are filled with tedious language and legalize but they are important.  Each State has developed regulations to protect children in child care and some counties and cities have additional requirements.  You can usually view them on line if you wish and if there is a parent friendly version available you may request a copy by calling your licensing agency.  The following categories should be covered, and these are the items you will want to be aware of as you begin your search for the right program for your child. (more…)

Does Birth Order Make A Difference?

I meet a lot of parents who are amused and sometimes dismayed at how different their children are from each other.

“Same household,” one couple said. “And we’re the same parents doing pretty much the same thing. Are you seriously suggesting that birth order accounts for our children’s differences?” (more…)

First Born In The Birth Order

If you’re a parent, you have a first born. If you have other children, that first born becomes the oldest child. If you have no other children, the first born remains an only child. This is the beginning of birth order and its influence on a child’s development. What might we see in the child occupying that position?

  • serious
  • cautious in new situations
  • tendency toward perfectionism
  • a bit more rigid, believing their way is the “right” way.
  • bossy, especially with younger siblings
  • high achieving, but easily discouraged. a worrier.

Each of those characteristics can be positive or each can be negative. We, as parents, need to understand what makes the difference between positive and negative so we can use birth order theory to help our child. (more…)

Birth Order: Your Second Child

Your second child arrives into the family to discover that, along with adults, there is a small person who is only a bit ahead in size and abilities. While the Oldest is comparing herself to the adults and striving to be like them, this  Second in  birth order is intent on catching up and surpassing his bother or sister (more…)

Birth Order and Parenting Skills

So many factors influence how our children develop and we know birth order is only one. How parents interact with each child is another and parenting skills are a huge focus for most of us. The other day I came across an article about some research that had been done in 2003 that took both the birth order and the parent’s skill level into account. (Journal of Marriage and Family 65.3) The question raised for this research was this. Will a parent’s experience with a first born improve their interactions with and parenting of the second born child? (more…)

Quality Child Care–Chapter 3

In the first chapter on finding quality child care we shared some important questions parents should ask the program’s director.  This is best done by making a phone call and taking notes.  If the program sounds like what you are looking for be sure to ask if there is space available in your child’s potential room.  In the second chapter you learned about the licensing requirements and standards which a child care center should meet.  Now it it is time to personally visit your top choices.  (more…)

Summer Reading

We all know that children who read during the summer will retain more academic skills and have an easier time when school begins in the fall. So how wonderful is it when a fun book appears that your 8-12 year old will love. A TALE OF TWO BIDDYS by Pat Skene is one of those books. Two little known fairy tales are retold in a way that will cause grandmothers to “slightly” raise their eyebrows while causing giggles and page turning for the reader. And there is a surprising moral at the end. Check it out!